We have gotten associated courage with heroism and large-scale actions: overcoming ourselves, saving others, loud events, and deeds. But in reality, our life is much more prosaic. The “Spartan” education system, in which one must regularly overcome oneself and sacrifice oneself, neglecting one’s feelings and comfort, is difficult to apply to “peaceful” conditions.
All this, of course, does not mean that there is no place for courage in ordinary life: a lot of everyday actions require courage and determination from us, even if it is not immediately noticeable. Besides, we are accustomed to perceiving courage as the absence of fear – while in reality it is often needed exactly where we have to overcome our own doubts and insecurities. We will tell you how to understand that you are a much more determined person than it seems at first glance.
You take on new tasks at work
Self-development is deservedly considered an important part of a career path. This is one of the elements of success: it is believed that you need not only to learn how to better cope with the usual things but also gradually take on new goals and objectives. It would seem that this is a habitual action – but outside the boundaries of this formula, they usually leave how much strength it takes to try new things and feel confident in this role. If you gradually began to take on new tasks and projects, learn new things, take the initiative and choose the scope of work yourself, have become more independent in routine matters – you probably know firsthand that all these actions require effort and courage. Making decisions on your own is much more difficult than acting under someone else’s leadership – but the result is much more valuable.
You assert your boundaries
Today in the world there is more and more talk about personal boundaries – about how important it is to respect the comfort of other people and take care of your own. At the same time, learning to defend boundaries is not as easy as it seems at first glance. We have already said that this is a long process: you have to understand in what situations it is difficult for you to refuse others and why, as well as learn to say “no”, without making excuses and without stopping before manipulation and aggression.
For many, this is very difficult: often it is easier for us to agree and do what is expected of us than to fight for our own choice. To understand what you want and what you don’t, and not be afraid to talk about it, requires not only careful attention to yourself, but also serious resources – and, of course, courage.
You express an opinion, even an unpopular one
We all know how difficult it can be to express an opinion – especially if it differs from what the majority think, or if you are in a formal setting like a work team. This issue can be especially difficult for women: the established gender norms prescribe them not to be “too” active and not to express an opinion unless they are absolutely sure of it. Research shows that women feel less confident in areas traditionally considered “masculine”, underestimate their abilities, and are less willing to accept praise. If you regularly challenge yourself – say, openly speaking your position in workshops – and your ideas are listened to, this is a reason to give yourself credit.
You think about the future
Probably, people who, in principle, have never thought about what they want for themselves in the future, do not exist. Yet the process will not be the same for everyone: there is a huge difference between the abstract interview question “Where do you see yourself in five years?”
It is not so easy to think seriously about how comfortable you are with what is happening to you now, and what you would like to change. You will have to carefully and impartially take a closer look at what you are doing, what people you are surrounded by, and what fills your life – and this process can be painful. If you know where you want to go and are taking steps to achieve what you want, you are probably much more determined than you used to think about yourself. It takes courage to admit that you won’t change – it’s great if you can do it.
You make decisions despite the fear
Let’s be honest: each of us at least once in our life had to make quick decisions, and this process, most likely, was not very pleasant. Alas, life is arranged in such a way that it often requires us to take quick action – no matter how much we want to collect all possible information and carefully analyze it, the chance to do this is not always given. This is an important skill for both work and everyday life – often waiting and slowly thinking about the situation is much more expensive. Of course, the decision may turn out to be wrong, and it will take time to correct the situation, but all this cannot be evaluated until you take action. We used to not notice how much courage day-to-day decisions sometimes require – but in vain.
You are not afraid of feelings and talk about them
Perhaps one of the most difficult areas for many of us his feelings. We have already told in detail that learning to understand them can be tricky, especially when it comes to emotions that are generally considered “bad” and “unwanted,” such as anger. Talking about feelings with others is also often uncomfortable, primarily because it puts us in a very vulnerable position. It takes a lot of effort to understand yourself and decide to share it with others – if this is about you, then you are probably bolder than you are used to realizing it.
You care about mental health
We rarely associate mental health issues with courage, but nevertheless, there is a direct connection. In Europe, stereotypes about mental disorders are still widespread; one of the most common is that “weak” people turn for psychological help and support. In reality, the opposite is often the case: admitting that you need help takes tremendous strength and courage – at least because of how often people with mental disorders face prejudice and undeserved judgment. No less effort is needed on the very struggle with the problem – to turn to specialists if necessary and take care of yourself. If you decided at least on something from this list and, in principle, thought about your own psychological comfort, this is already a lot.